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Marriage

March 3, 2014

Vacations and Married Life

Any time you are interested in getting rid of stress and relaxing a bit, it is a good idea for you to focus on having a vacation that will make you feel a lot better. Sometimes this is not a vacation that is going to be the best spot you have ever dreamed, but instead it will be one that can save your married life.

The following article about marriage and how to utilize vacations in order to have a happy union can help you to better decide what you need to do.

Mutual Vacation Destinations

When both partners are stressed due to home responsibilities and work, it is a good idea to have a mutual decision for the vacation. This can be done by looking at many different options for each of the family members and then deciding based on that list what seems like the best idea for both. Even though it might not be the number one destination for each individual, it is one that both will enjoy.

Sometimes a male who makes the money at work will consider the money his and therefore the vacation is his decision. While this might be good for him, the female that has spent a lot of time at home working with kids and keeping a good home will get no input into the matter. This is a recipe for disaster waiting to happen.

By trying one simple exercise, you might be able to avoid problems when dealing with travel destinations. Just write a list of different places that you want to visit and then check that list with your partners and see which location shows up on both. That could be the one that you visit and there are no qualms that it is a mutual decision.

Vacation Time and Meals

There are a lot of different things that one can do to have a great vacation, but partners should also make decisions together when they are on the road. While spending time in a certain city every decision should be made together in order to get the best results from the vacation. Spending time doing things that each person wants to do is going to make it more relaxing for both so that coming home is not stressful again.

The vacation is supposed to be a break from the rigors of every day life that can put strain on a marriage. Although happy marriages are built on foundations far stronger than just a vacation, they are integral for better understanding how your partner things and relaxing so that you can maintain happiness at all times.

Horoscopes,Zodiac Signs

February 17, 2014

Origin of the Zodiac Signs

Gazing up into the sky can tell one a lot about the universe and expand horizons far beyond the small planet we all live on. The Zodiac signs are part of a tradition from human culture that has tried to define many of the things that we find so difficult to understand. These signs were developed long ago by cultures that are unrecognizable to the present day.

The origin of Zodiac signs and understanding the celestial bodies is within a few different cultures. The following exploration of the astrological signs can give us insight into the people and the minds of those who created the modern interpretation.

Babylonian Beginnings

The astrological signs that kicked off the interest have been recorded in ancient Babylonian texts that reference certain “signs” in the heavens. These signs are often referred to as “Sumerian signs”, which are an indicator that these early civilizations were looking at the zodiac signs with similar interest and intrigue as their counterparts in the west.

Even though the Babylonian texts do not offer enough detail to change the view that Greco-Roman societies created the signs, it is enough for some to find interest in their beginnings.

Egyptian and Greek Astrology

The baton for astrological study was then handed from the Babylonian empires to those who were in Egypt and Greece. Although the Hellenistic world was not one unified country, the influence that this culture had over the rest of the world was great. In Egypt, a Hellenistic ruler, Ptolemy started to work on Tetrabiblos, which was the most influential work in how the signs spread through Europe and the Middle East. It became the main reference for people interested in the subject for hundreds of years.

Through the use of these signs, the ancient Greek peoples started to adequate symbols and particular traits that could be attributed to modern birth days and dates. These grew in their importance and have today become one of the most firmly rooted things within the Zodiac world.

Today the remnants of the Greek world are still felt in any person that utilizes astrological signs for themselves or others. While most do not know the origination or history behind all of the symbols, it is clear that the ancient Greek and Babylonians had an integral part in defining the way that we see ourselves today.

Christchurch,New Zealand

February 3, 2014

Christchurch Art & Culture

For visitors or even natives to Christchurch, New Zealand, sometimes it can come as a shock that there is so much art and culture located in this small city. Although it has been devastated by an earthquake in recent years, the city has reborn and is bringing art and culture to everyone including natives and tourists. Through the use of the following suggestions, you can see a wide variety of different art pieces and even become acquainted with some of the culture that is unique not only to New Zealand, but to Christchurch specifically.

Art Galleries in Christchurch

There are many different art galleries in Christchurch, New Zealand, but one of the famous is known as the Aigantighe Art Gallery. It is a very unique gallery that embraces many different unique and original types of art from a wide host of different creators. Many of them are from well-known New Zealand artists like Goldie and McCahon who have made names for themselves outside of the country. This gallery is one of high caliber and yet is very modest in structure and layout.

As well as the Aigantighe Art Gallery, there is the Little River Gallery, which is dedicated to showing the large amount of local artistic talent. This gallery is located on the gateway to Banks Peninsula and offers a great view from the outside and the inside.

Aside from the art galleries that are located in Christchurch, there are a number of other places for the culture and heritage of the city and region to come alive.

Markets, Entertainment and Festivals

Of course, the festivals are some of the best ways of being introduced to a culture and Christchurch is home to many. One of the best New Zealand Jazz festivals comes to the city in April and there is even an arts festival in August or September. Not only are there a number of festivals about artistic talents, but there is also a festival of flowers in February and a festival of transitional architecture for even more uniqueness!

The markets are another great place to visit for a real splash of New Zealand culture. The Riccarton Market is the largest outdoor market with more than 300 stalls. There is almost anything that you can hope to find in these stores and it will continue whether there is rain or shine!

Uncategorized

January 20, 2014

Keeping Secrets in a Marriage

Everyone has things that they wish others would not know or discuss. One of the biggest things that people do when they are in relationships is keep secrets for a long time. Sometimes it starts off because telling the significant other might not be a good idea for mutual feelings; the secrets can be a real problem once you get further into the relationship and still do not want to tell them about the problems that you have had. The following article is about how secrets can destroy your marriage and why you need to be open about them in order to have a happy marriage.

Keeping Secrets While Married

When you are married it is a good idea to share everything with your partner no matter how bad it might be. As they are now your immediate family, it is going to seem difficult for you to keep anything away or justify not being upfront with them. The secrets that you have from many years prior are not that problematic, but you need to make sure to confront them earlier rather than later.

If you keep secrets, there will be times when your partner feels more betrayed by the fact they did not know something rather than the content of the secret itself. Sometimes it is best if you just make sure they know everything about you before you offer to get married so that they have a fair chance to make some sort of decision based on those skeletons in the closet.

Taking Secrets too Far

The biggest problem that people have is when they have a small secret and there is fear that the partner will not accept it. When this is the case, the fear can prove so overwhelming that the secret is never mentioned. Sometimes procrastination is a major problem with marriage and relationships in general. One person has a secret and constantly tells themselves that it is better to tell their partner at a later time. Eventually that time never comes and it ends up going untold.

Secrets are not inherently bad, but when it comes to a married couple, finding out things that you should know about your partner can be devastating. It can lead to a lot of fighting, it can lead to misunderstandings, and it can ruin the happiness of your marriage. The misunderstandings that you might have because of a lack of knowledge of your secrets can be a huge problem.

Dating

January 6, 2014

Confidence and Arrogance in Dating

When it comes to dating women, most men need to have confidence in themselves. There is no virtue that is built within a void, however. As Ralph Waldo Emerson repeats, one must consistently do the thing in order to have the power. Therefore, men must speak and be successful with women in order to have the confidence to speak with them. It may seem paradoxical, but it is not.

However, no matter how much confidence a man thinks he needs, it can easily turn into arrogance. There is a balance with all great virtues and finding that balance is the main purpose of life.

Building Confidence in Dating

Sometimes it seems like it is nearly impossible to build confidence when you have done nothing noteworthy. It is difficult to have the confidence to attract the most beautiful women when you have no experience. This is where having confidence in other areas of your life should really come into play. If you are a great musician or you have some great talent in another realm, it is this that you should derive your confidence from.

When you are confident in this way, you see yourself as enough for any woman. You are a great person for the reasons you contemplate and then there is no longer a barrier between you and another female. That is the great thing about self-confidence in all aspects of life.

Of course, when it comes to speaking to women, the only real confidence that you can have is that of your successes. The only way to get successes is to speak to the women that you have feelings for and see what happens.

Arrogance and Confidence

After a while, the success will lead to confidence, but it may also lead to arrogance, which is what every single person needs to be careful of. Having too much confidence in oneself can lead to this arrogant attitude that can be self-sabotaging in another way. Just make sure you are able to remain humble and you do not feel yourself superior to anyone else.

If you can avoid from feeling superior and you just steady increase your confidence on a routine basis, there is a good chance that you will be able to have many of the dating experiences that you have dreamed of.

Horoscopes,Zodiac Signs

December 23, 2013

Astrology is Evolving and Changing

The entire discipline of astrology has evolved so much since 2000 or so years ago. It has been a strange development, but modern zodiac signs are thought of in ways that are quite different than they have historically been. The zodiac signs are now more utilized for their prophecy telling, which is a far cry from what the original scholars intended. The following article is about astrology and the evolution of the discipline over the course of time. From a very serious coordinate system to an interesting game of personalities, it has been a long journey.

Origins of Astrology and the Zodiac

Despite the seemingly western roots, the zodiac signs were actually first developed in ancient Babylon. These peoples were gazing at the stars when they decided to create the zodiac signs, which were 12 different 30 degree segments across the sky. Their calculations were not as well recorded and discussed as some of the later scholars, but they were enough to create calendars and help provide the right coordinate system that was needed for the time.

After the Babylonians, the baton of study was passed to the Greeks. It was here that some of the most preeminent work was started. There were many people who studied Astrology at the time in the Hellenistic kingdoms, but Ptolemy of Egypt was the one with the most renown. His works on the origins of astrology made it possible for many people to understand the concept for over 1700 years.

Zodiac in Roman and Modern Times

After the Romans took over the zodiac signs, they started to increase the importance of the different figures attached to them and how they related to humans. The Latin names became the most prevalent and obviously it spread across the globe. Even in distant China, the zodiac signs were starting to take a new meaning.

It was not long before the middle ages and early modern eras started to morph the zodiac signs into something based more on the symbols than the coordinates. With this change came the importance placed on birthdays and the personality traits associated with each of the signs. Today, this is actually the most well known aspect of the entire zodiac calendar and astrology as a whole. While there are plenty of scholars on the subject, the general public often has little to do with this.

Christchurch,New Zealand

December 8, 2013

Wildlife in Christchurch, NZ

Living in the Christchurch, New Zealand region can bring a number of benefits, but sometimes it is easy to take it for granted. People visiting the city know that there are many different great places to see. The wildlife in Christchurch is actually some of the best that you can find in the world. It isn’t just animals that one can find, but a lot of great plant life as well.

The following article will focus on a few of the wildlife and gardens that are great for people to visit while touring Christchurch.

Wildlife Park in Christchurch

A great outing during the day is the Orana Wildlife park, which is situated in the Christchurch area not very far from the main city center. This park has a wide variety of different animals including plenty that are exotic to New Zealand, Australia and the entire Pacific rim area. These animals range from very large hunters and big cats all the way to the small insects and other critters.

For a lot of animal lovers this is a unique place to visit due to the wide variety of life that exists. It paints a beautiful portrait of all of the wildlife that are on the islands of New Zealand as well. For this group of islands, the climate is far ranging and has a lot to offer. A lot of people who are involved with biological research are interested in New Zealand for exactly this reason.

Gardens and Reserves

There are two places where the wildlife is interesting, but the plants are even more so. The beautiful Christchurch botanic gardens is a well known hotspot for a lot of tourists who want to enjoy some of the native flowers and plants from the area. Even though there are a lot of flowers that people might find familiar, the grounds keepers have done an excellent job with the maintenance of the flowers. More importantly, the design of the garden is worthy of a lot of respect and admiration.

As for the Willowbank wildlife reserve, there are a number of plants as well. This area is an entire untouched region where you can see plenty of natural foliage and animal life living within. While it might not always be easy to find the wildlife living on the reserve, you will most likely find it fairly easy to enjoy yourself.

Dating

November 24, 2013

What do men want? To have fun! Cute indoor dating tips

Sadly, with the financial situation most of us find ourselves in, it can be difficult to put on a good date. It’s horrible, right? The mistakes of others is costing us our present, our future and even our potential happiness!

It’s not right, and yes many people are struggling to meet others due to a lack of money. It’s sad but it’s also true. However, with a little creativity you can get over these problems in the dating world and create a truly exciting date! As much as men want respect and love, they also want to have fun too!

Just because you can’t afford to treat your date to a fancy night out on the own does not mean you need to turn the date into a “DVD Night” or something exhaustingly tedious like that. Once you have spent a considerable amount of time together, then that is more likely the way things will go. However, at first, make sure you try and stay inventive!

If you are running on empty with regards to date ideas, then fear not! We have compiled a list of three awesome date ideas that are bound to help you save money and have an awesome night all at once;

Introduce Them!

If you are planning on staying indoors, that does not mean you need to sit in alone together. Organize your date around an event or an invite to a party – you can have a good night, connect with others and let everybody know who your potential new partner is!

Social events are a great way to have a rare time without having to smash the bank. House parties are much more common today given the financial plight of just about everybody, so this works a charm to have fun and save a bit of cash.

Game Night

With the invention of games consoles and mobile technology, board games have died a death. However, many people still love these games from the old days – so why not crack out some of the old classics?

Games nights can be fun, it can loosen you both up, and it allows you a chance to see how your partner acts win a competitive environment! Winning a game always helps you win respect amoungst the guys.

Write Together

This is really popular between creative people. If you regularly discuss movies and television, or any kind of media, then you have a starter already. Why not try and piece together a script? Make sure it’s short, so you can do it in the night, and make sure to have a lot of fun while you are at it!

There are literally hundreds of way to go out and have fun in the world today, and you can bring most of it home with you! Don’t let financial scrimping get in the way, creative ideas will breathe a new vigor into you and your partner and help you really enjoy a night in together!

Horoscopes

November 14, 2013

Are Horoscopes Relative?

For many years, people have started their commute to work with one objective – to check their horoscope. It gives them clues on how the day is supposed to go and how they are supposed to be feeling. However, when it comes to the love side of Horoscopes, the lines start to blur a little.

People have thrown away golden relationships or walked straight into disasters purely on the directions of a horoscope. But at the same time, people have found love where they thought there was none through the same medium. So how effective is love horoscopes?

The general consensus is that they are a creative and really enjoyable way to mix up your conversations. As far as having real accuracy, though, it’s hard to say. There really is no way for your local paper column to predict your love life, sadly!

However, when you turn to more specific love horoscopes, things change a little. Visiting a tuned in horoscope expert individually could be a little different – it’s not quite so vague then. There is much more credence in tarot readings and horoscope experts than there is in the newspaper equivalent that is for sure!

The predictions are made using the relative positions of the sun, the moon, the other planets and the stars in general. Every single day, this formation changes slightly and this gives you the zodiac numbers. Every birthday has a zodiac to go with it, and in the broadest sense love horoscopes use the attributes to create theoretical partners.

Of course, there are skeptics and believers but if you want to keep believing that the newspaper has the answer, you should think again. However, as said above, there is a significantly higher belief that experts who read you individually have much more believability about them. They not only show much more attunement to the entire situation, they are reading your actual energies rather than giving vague and broad assumptions.

Overall, it really does depend on your own take on the world of horoscopes. Do you believe that your horoscope represents you properly? Does it give you the right image and does it actually suit your personality?

Does the horoscope given to the person you are thinking about match their attributes? If you find the answer to both questions is yes, then perhaps you have something there. Again, horoscopes in the broadest sense are massively vague. If you find that it fits your own scenario, then there could be something there. But don’t look for things that are not there – nothing can be more hurtful or insulting than misguided directions from your horoscope!

Dating

November 3, 2013

The Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship

unhealthy relationshipMarriage can only work if it is treated as a partnership. If only one person has their heart in it, it won’t work. It is important to know when your relationship is in trouble, and so today I will be speaking to you from people experience. From my life experience, these are the signs that a relationship is unhealthy. When you see these things happening in your own relationship, you need to act – fast!

You are struggling to communicate 

If the communication lines have broken down, then you need to immediately sit down and work things out. What does a communication break down involve? If one partner tries to talk to another, and they refuse to listen – that is a break down. If communication leads to regular fights, then communication is failing to happen too. If you don’t fix this, then you’ll not be able to have your needs met by your partner, and the relationship will fall apart. It will also lead to self-doubt.

Your partner doesn’t take an interest in your life

Do you come home, and ask your sweetie about their day? That is great. Do they ask you about yours? If they don’t, that is a bad sign. Relationships aren’t all magic – they take work. And when one partner fails to take an interest in the life of the other, it will lead to them feeling isolated and unwanted. When effort to get to know the other and stay in-touch with them isn’t happening, then the relationship has become unhealthy and destructive.

Unhealthy Relationship Signs

No sex – or other physical touch – for a long time

Do you live in a ‘dead bedroom’ house – i.e. a house where there is no sex? A healthy sex drive is an indicator of good health. Unless your partner is asexual or has always had a low libido, then this should be a troubling sign if you previously had a healthy sex life. This doesn’t mean that your partner doesn’t love you: it could mean that they themselves are in a bad place personally and that is why they don’t want to have sex. But a low self-confidence and depression will ultimately destroy a relationship, and this needs to be addressed.

How can you deal with these issues? Open and honest communication is necessary. Sometimes couples have communication break downs because they choose the wrong time to communicate with each other. If your partner has a stressful job, don’t approach them as they are just getting  home. Instead, run them a hot bath and make them a cup of tea. When they are relaxed, gently approach the issue without any blame or anger in your voice. This is a great way to open the lines of communication, and fix your relationship.