Tips for getting women to respond to your online dating messages

March 30, 2014 at 8:25 am

When you are a female and you are looking to date online, finding a man to take you on a date is very easy. All you need to do is put your profile up, and you will receive a lot of messages. On the other hand, if you are a male, you need to be a lot more savvy. You can’t just expect women to start messaging you – you need to message them and be proactive. One problem a lot of men find is that the women they message received a flood of mail, and that theirs gets lost in translation. To get a response, you need to stand out – but in a good way. Here are some tips for getting women to stop ignoring your messages on online dating websites.

Tip 1: Stand out from the crowd and be different

Because the woman you are messaging probably has received a lot of messages, she doesn’t have time to read them all. Instead, she will only read the ones that stand out. Putting “hi, how are you?” is not enough. You need to do more. In your title of your message, show your confidence. Say something like: “You sound interesting, and I love interesting people.” Then, in your message, set a clear, definitive offer. Tell her you are interested, and then present a date that she cannot refuse. If you sound nervous, she will pick up on it. People liked to be wanted – so use that to your advantage.

Tip 2: Have a full, legitimate profile

The temptation to use an older picture of yourself with a younger you may be tempting, but I highly recommend you don’t do this. Why? Firstly, even if this does work to get you the initial date, she will be frustrated at how different you look in real life that it won’t matter. Secondly, we women can usually tell when someone is lying in their profiles. It doesn’t matter how well you think you can do this – we can tell. So stick to the truth, and let you sell yourself.

Online dating isn’t for everyone. But many people have met their life partners online – so if you can bring up the courage, I say go for it, you have nothing to lose!