Marriage can only work if it is treated as a partnership. If only one person has their heart in it, it won’t work. It is important to know when your relationship is in trouble, and so today I will be speaking to you from people experience. From my life experience, these are the signs that a relationship is unhealthy. When you see these things happening in your own relationship, you need to act – fast!
You are struggling to communicate
If the communication lines have broken down, then you need to immediately sit down and work things out. What does a communication break down involve? If one partner tries to talk to another, and they refuse to listen – that is a break down. If communication leads to regular fights, then communication is failing to happen too. If you don’t fix this, then you’ll not be able to have your needs met by your partner, and the relationship will fall apart. It will also lead to self-doubt.
Your partner doesn’t take an interest in your life
Do you come home, and ask your sweetie about their day? That is great. Do they ask you about yours? If they don’t, that is a bad sign. Relationships aren’t all magic – they take work. And when one partner fails to take an interest in the life of the other, it will lead to them feeling isolated and unwanted. When effort to get to know the other and stay in-touch with them isn’t happening, then the relationship has become unhealthy and destructive.
No sex – or other physical touch – for a long time
Do you live in a ‘dead bedroom’ house – i.e. a house where there is no sex? A healthy sex drive is an indicator of good health. Unless your partner is asexual or has always had a low libido, then this should be a troubling sign if you previously had a healthy sex life. This doesn’t mean that your partner doesn’t love you: it could mean that they themselves are in a bad place personally and that is why they don’t want to have sex. But a low self-confidence and depression will ultimately destroy a relationship, and this needs to be addressed.
How can you deal with these issues? Open and honest communication is necessary. Sometimes couples have communication break downs because they choose the wrong time to communicate with each other. If your partner has a stressful job, don’t approach them as they are just getting home. Instead, run them a hot bath and make them a cup of tea. When they are relaxed, gently approach the issue without any blame or anger in your voice. This is a great way to open the lines of communication, and fix your relationship.